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  baratunde aka jack turner

  1 year ago

  rikyrah, we send you much love during this time. you've been an incredible member of the family here, and so your mother's loss is a loss for all of us. i lost my own mother to colon cancer a few years ago and have some idea of what you're going through. everybody here has your back.
  
  peace & blessings
  
  - jack
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  Jay

  1 year ago

  Oh my sister...I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers.
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  submariner

  1 year ago

  I'm really sorry for your loss.
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  D.

  1 year ago

  Be blessed, and know that you have my family's condolences and prayers.
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  G.D.

  1 year ago

  My deepest, deepest condolences.
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  Carlos

  1 year ago

  No one can know the pain and sadness that you are feeling at this moment, but know that your readers' prayers and thoughts are with you at this time.
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  Taye Foster Bradshaw

  1 year ago

  I am sending you my deepest sympathies on the death of your mother!
  
  I am helping my cousin (only child) deal with the sudden (we found out Mother's Day and she died June 11th) death of his mother from inoperable cancer throughout her body.
  
  Just know that there are people who send you love and hugs, like I told my cousin, it will get better and accept the help from people, it is our way of showing you our love. It is our way of honoring.
  
  Be blessed and well
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  TheRowdyGirl

  1 year ago

  I am very sorry for your loss. Sharing your mother's favorite poem has deeply impacted me . . . thanks for doing that.
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  Webb

  1 year ago

  You are in my prayers. May God bless and keep you and your family,
  Webb
  
  
  The Lord will never leave you nor forsake you! He will be there to comfort, strengthen and give you peace that passes all understanding, in your time of grief and sorrow; rest in the Lord and cast all your cares on Him!
  
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  Melinda

  1 year ago

  Dear Rikyrah,
  
  I am so sorry about your mother's passing. I found a lot of comfort in this little story when my dad died many years ago, so I am sharing it with you in the hope that it adds to your comfort in this time of deep grief.
  
  With sympathy,
  Melinda in Texas
  
  ******
  
  What Is Death?
  (by Henry Scott Holland)
  
  I am standing upon the seashore. A ship at my side spreads her white sails
  to the ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength.
  
  I stand and watch her
  until at length she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and
  sky come to mingle with each other.
  
  Then someone at my side says: "There, she is gone!"
  
  "Gone where?"
  
  Gone from my sight. That is all.
  
  Her diminished size is in me, not in her. And just at the moment when
  someone at my side says: "There, she is gone!" there are other eyes watching
  her coming, and other voices ready to take up the glad shout:
  
  "Here she comes!"
  
  And that is dying.
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  icebergslim

  1 year ago

  My thoughts and prayers are with you.
  
  I know how swiftly lung cancer can be.
  
  My father in law is diagnosed, stage 4.
  
  It is tough.
  
  nuff said.
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  smoothie

  1 year ago

  your family is in my prayers
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  tvanel

  1 year ago

  Please accept my deepest and sincerest condolences for your terrible loss. I cannot muster enough words to express how much I have enjoyed your posts. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your fam...Godspeed and come back soon.
  
  tvanel
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  BlackAmericanPrincess

  1 year ago

  rikyrah, reading your posts for the few short months I've been on this blog have shown me that you are a beautiful, strong sister. I will continue to pray your strength in the Lord, I'm so very very sorry for your loss...
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  Admiral_Komack

  1 year ago

  I am so sorry.
  
  Please accept my condolences.
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  Texas_Girl_in_LA

  1 year ago

  My prayers are with you and your family, Rikyrah
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  Elephants&Flowers

  1 year ago

  May you and yours BE BLESSED during this difficult time...
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  Buffalo Cowboy

  1 year ago

  My condolences to you. My mother also has COPD from over twenty years of smoking and diabetes but she has been going to physical therapy/ rehab religiously for about 5 years and is maintaining the remaining lung capacity that she has. Mom is controlling the diabetes with a vengeance.....this is a waiting game and I dread going where you are now but I know its coming whether I want it to or not.
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  B-Serious

  1 year ago

  My sincere condolences to you and your family. My prayers are with you.
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  Michigander2

  1 year ago

  Rikyrah, my prayers and thoughts to you and your family.
  
  Angela
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  Pinksun

  1 year ago

  Type your comment here.
  Rikyrah
  Here is a tight internet hug for you!!! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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  foufou

  1 year ago

  Rikyrah
  
  prayers and condolences for you and your family on your loss
  
  sher
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  Sepia

  1 year ago

  Rikyrah --
  
  I am so sorry for your loss.
  
  May God Bless You and Your Family.
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  Scientific

  1 year ago

  Sister, I'll be praying for you and yours. God bless.
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  NMP

  1 year ago

  Rikyrah,
  
  I'm am so very sorry for your loss! Not knowing you personally, but reading your blogs and postings the last couple of years, the two things that I know for certain about you is your love of Black folks and your love for your mother. You can be certain that she left this world at peace knowing that she was LOVED. You and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers!
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  blksista

  1 year ago

  Rikyrah,
  
  Just getting to know JJP and its proprietors and supporters, but realize that I am sorry for your loss just the same. You and your Mom fought the good fight until the end. She was valiant. So are you. Remember that you were cut and formed from the same bone and flesh.
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  lexusOakland

  1 year ago

  Rikyrah, I remember a friend losing her mom when I was about 10, and hoping my parents would live forever, but at least until I was grown. I lost my dad when I was 47, and being grown did nothing to shield me from the pain and heartbreak, as my 10 year old self just knew it would. Losing a parent shifts our very foundation and place in the world. I wish you peace, time to mourn, and patience. Grief has no timeline but its own. Be gentle with yourself.
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  TruthSeeker

  1 year ago

  Rikyrah,
  
  I'm so very sorry to hear this. Take it easy.
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  TruthSeeker

  1 year ago

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  Anovelista

  1 year ago

  Rikyrah,
  
  I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. I will say a prayer for you and your family.
  
  Nichelle
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  Roxie

  1 year ago

  Oh, my darling! ((((((HUGS)))))
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  CPL

  1 year ago

  Rikyrah, you know I'm praying for you. I know what it's like to send your mother home to glory. ((((BIG HUG)))
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  msmartin

  1 year ago

  rikyrah
  
  There are no words, I share a tear with you. I lost my father at a young age to the swift effects of lung cancer and can imagine your loss. I'll pray for your peace and strength and that of your family.
  
  Know that you add to our experience and are missed when you're not here. I was wondering where you were.
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  nezua

  1 year ago

  ah. big love, rikyrah. be strong. see you when i do.
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  Honey01

  1 year ago

  Rikyah,
  I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care.
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  glory

  1 year ago

  I pray that the peace of the Lord will be with you and your family.
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  Michelle

  1 year ago

  I am so sorry to hear about your mother's death, rikyrah.
  
  I honor the reality of your broken heart -- it's your mother and that's a hard loss.
  
  Michelle
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  Rhondacoca

  1 year ago

  Wow. I could not imagine how you feel right now.
  
  Ironically, I found out last night that my mother has been diagnosed with colon cancer. I was shocked but then again, it runs in our family. My grandmother died of colon cancer last year. My mother will have to get treatment. I am very scared.
  
  My prayers are with you and your family at this hard time.
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  Leila Abu-Saba

  1 year ago

  I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my father to lung cancer in 2006 - two months after his diagnosis. We never saw it coming - he was virulently anti-smoking all of his 76 years. I know what heartbreak you must be feeling right now.
  
  My prayers are with you.
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  Leila Abu-Saba

  1 year ago

  Others who are facing cancer - be of faith. I am living with metastatic breast cancer to the liver, lung and spine - 10 months since diagnosis. Every day is a blessing and a gift. Treatment is not easy but living is so sweet. It's natural to have fear in the face of cancer - express your fears - and remember to have faith in God and the natural ability of your body or your loved one's body to heal itself and survive. Love is the answer - love, forgiveness, laughter and prayer.
  
  Also be in communion with nature as much as possible, even if that means sitting in the back yard. Trees, running water, sunshine, physical contact with earth - all of these heal. God works through nature to heal all creatures.
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  akonuche

  1 year ago

  Oh no! I am so sorry to hear this, rik. Diabetes complications and lung cancer is quite a battle to have fought. She is home now. May your grieving period not last long and may your dear mother rest in eternal peace. You are in my prayers.
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  Big Mik

  1 year ago

  My Lord, I am so sorry to hear that, as a long time lurker that loves reading your thoughts, I send my love and prayers to you and your family.
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  heartsandflowers

  1 year ago

  Wow. May you have comfort in your time of grief. Losing a loved one is never a good experience but with time it gets more manageable. May I suggest speaking to a bereavement counselor to help you transition. Your writing has always been on point that had you not mentioned it, no one would have guessed you were hurting.
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  scruncher

  1 year ago

  I am so sorry to hear about your mother's passing. I lost my mother to lung cancer 27 years ago so I know what you've been through. And to lose your mother is a loss forever. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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  ubstu34

  1 year ago

  So sorry to hear about your loss. May God grant you the strength to get through this tough time.
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  goldenstar

  1 year ago

  Rikyrah,
  
  Peace and prayers and light to you and your family.
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  P6

  1 year ago

  I wish there was something substantial I could do to help.
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  CraigHickman

  1 year ago

  rikyrah, my heart breaks for you.
  
  Take care of yourself.
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  SquarePeg

  1 year ago

  Condolesences on the lost of your precious mother. Her legacy to you is that she prepared you well in regards to your self-identity and place in this world.
  
  Your evident compassion, frankness and love of your people is on display in your blogs to which we are all grateful.
  
  Her memory will live on in you as an example of how you were "raised right."
  
  My sympathies.
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  GreenLadyHere

  1 year ago

  AMEN. God comfort you and yours. Keep strong for "Mama"! She is proud of you.
  God Bless You.
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  Teacher

  1 year ago

  To Rikyrah & your family, May God keep and comfort you during your time of sorrow. You will never stop missing her, though you will get use to it over time. Keep her photo close by so you can continue to talk to her. Know that, even as we mourn her loss here on earth, the angels are REJOICING! in heaven. She must've been an incredible woman to raise a daughter as awesome as you. Be surrounded by love.
  
  I hug you, Teacher
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  Nita

  1 year ago

  I am sorry to hear of the passing of your Mom, Rikyrah. You and your family will be in my and my family's prayers this week. God bless you all.
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  TheRowdyGirl

  12 months ago

  I thought you would like to know that I posted this beautiful poem on another private social site and here is the response I got:
  
  My son directed me to your post.......and I am so grateful he did. He has heard me quote the first phrase of this poem all his life, as my mother taught it to me when I was a child, and it has been the standard that I have lived by my whole life. Yes, as a little girl and even as an adult, if I am tempted to compromise my actions in any way, I quote this poem to myself, and then am better able to make the right choice. I'm sooooo thrilled to at last read the poem in it's entirety......I never even knew who the poet was, so could never look it up.
  I called up my mother, who is now 94, and read it to her. She says she used to know the whole thing, but had forgotten it years ago. Thanks for the memories, and for the opportunity for others to know this wonderful little poem and to perhaps become better people because of its wisdom. Thank you so much for sharing ........
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  bajanlady

  12 months ago

  Rikyrah I am SO sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless.
  Allison
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